In these days of funeral personalization, families are encouraged to think “outside of the box” in creating a meaningful experience to celebrate their loved ones. This personalization can be demonstrated in a number of ways, from room set up and decorations, to even refreshments and take-aways. But one detail that almost everyone puts extra thought into is the music.
At almost every visitation I have attended, there is some kind of background music playing. I have heard a variety of artists and genres, all of which I’m sure have had some sort of significance to the deceased, or their family.
However, may I suggest that before submitting that Greatest Hits CD to your funeral director, you take a few moments to listen to ALL the songs that will be playing during this important time. Here is my list of the top five songs that I wish would NOT have been played at a funeral visitation.
5. Sure, lots of people love Christmas, and Christmas CDs are easy to come by, but should we make sure that Grandma Got Run Over By a Reindeer is not on the playlist? Hopefully, grandma and all of her relatives had a good sense of humor about her antlered nemesis.
4. What could go wrong with Simon & Garfunkel? Sometimes the Sounds of Silence can be deafening.
3. At one point in time, Chasing Cars by Snow Patrol was a very popular song in the suburbs. The worst part about this song is that the only lyrics you can really understand without listening closely are “If I lay here. If I just lay here…” I actually found myself singing along at one point.
2. Even if your loved one was the world’s biggest Insane Clown Posse fan, do you think it’s the best idea to play Miracles? For the sake of the other guests in the building, let’s just not. Ever.
1. The eulogy has been given, the casket has been closed, people begin to line up to pay their respects, and the funeral director turns the Frank Sinatra CD back on just in time to catch Lady is a Tramp crooning softly in the background. Perfect. Maybe nobody else noticed…
There are dozens of lists of obvious Bad Funeral Songs online, but what is the most cringe-worthy song you have heard at a funeral service or visitation?
Amy is a Columbus native with a Journalism degree from Otterbein University. She came to Schoedinger in 2009 as a chapel administrator, and is currently the advance planning coordinator. She enjoys writing, reading, and spending time with her family.